(Self-worth as distinct from self-esteem, so eloquently explained by John Niland.)

When I do, I’m convinced I’m not worth it.

I’m not worth …

Me time, whether it’s

A nice, long soak in the bath with a good book

Or whiling away an evening reading friends’ blogs

Getting organised

Such as with a task list so I know how best to proceed

Or by tidying or decluttering my space so I can hear myself think

Others’ attention

Help from a loved one – or even just their company

Attention from prospects, including them filling out my contact form, getting on a sales call, etc

After most of the last decade spent working on healing my trauma, I now usually recognise what’s happening when it arises, and I’ve learned to let it pass, not getting attached to it. Other people may find asking for help the best way forward.

That last example ties right into your business, though.

Whether it’s an occasional flare-up of self-doubt or self-worthlessness, or a more persistent, subtle, insidious thing, do you act like you’re worth it?

Worth attention – from yourself and others?

Worth energy being expended – your own and others’?

Worth time – to yourself and with others?

Stop and think about it.

If not…

Perhaps you had an experience that caused you to dim yourself down so someone else would be more comfortable?

Perhaps you, too, had the trauma of being taught from an early age that you’re not worth it?

Perhaps you’ve lately been watching too much television and movies? (This sounds tongue in cheek, but I mean it genuinely, because I find, for myself, that staring too long at beautiful, perfectly symmetrical people, who always know exactly the right thing to say and have exactly the right soundtrack over which to say it, warps my perspective of reality – and has occasionally kicked off a bout of low self-worth.)

Or perhaps it has some other cause altogether?

Dig right down. Identify it. Then, you’ll be more able to identify when you’re acting like you’re not worth it. The gold is that then you can work out whether it’s due to the current situation or it’s an overblown response due to something in your past. Then you’ll be able to act accordingly.

You are worth it.

You’re worth time, attention, and energy.

Help yourself know it always in all ways.

Why and How to Use These Prompts

Getting into a better place in thinking about money is a vital first step to facing our numbers and then doing something to better them - all the stuff I'm here to help you with.

Use these prompts to gently explore your feelings about money at your own pace. Remember, the point is to dig beneath the surface for yourself.

Brew up a cuppa, put on some chill music, light a candle or incense, get a notebook and pen, and give it a go. Consider setting a timer for just 15 minutes and write whatever comes into your head.

For some prompts, you might prefer to meditate on them instead. Or ponder them whilst doing the washing up or walking the dog. Or you might want to talk them through with a trusted friend. Do whatever works for you to help you get to a better money mindset.

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